Friday, March 18, 2011

Happy Gay Friday & My first gay friend

TGIF! And let’s leave it at that, because I’m pretty positive you don’t want to hear in detail about me feeling blah this week…

So, instead let me tell you about the friend I’m meeting tonight for a drink. It’ll suit today because she’s one of the first gay, or actually bisexual, friends I had. Our friendship goes back to when I was about seventeen years old, and she was one of the most important people when it comes to forming my opinion on homosexuality. We were part of a group that went out to clubs, dancing to the sounds of The Cure, Sisters of Mercy, New Model Army, The Smiths, and so on. I think we were called new wave or goth and we adored the color black, lots of jewelry and make-up. In this group of people sexuality had many faces and experimenting wasn’t a dirty word, although it all was very chaste, of course (being teenagers in another era ;)).

She is the only one of the group I still see regularly even if it’s not every day or even every week; we go out for a bite or a drink every now and then, or we go to see a band perform whenever we feel like it. Our friendship went much deeper than with the other ones in the group. We lived together.
See, she had a crush on me and we had this wonderful intellectual and emotional connection. So, we decided to move in together, or actually I moved in with her. And we had a great time together; going to parties, having (gay) friends over, chatting until late at night. But, unfortunately for her, our story didn’t get a happily ever after, because although we had the intellectual and emotional connection, we never had the physical one. We shared the same bed but never anything happened between us there, because I’m as straight as I can be. Sadly for her.
Still we were happy (she assured me she could live with that)… Until I met hubby and fell head over heels for him…

I broke her heart and sometimes I can still feel bad about it, after all those years. It got ugly and after that we didn’t see each other for a certain period of time, but one day she came back in our lives when she was over it and realized that hubby wasn’t a temporarily fling for me. I think she ended up falling in love with him even more than she had with me. By the time hubs and I got married she was the happiest friend of all, that day. That’s just how big her heart is.
She made me feel loved and she made me accept, unconsciously, all varieties of sexuality, because she is, and always has been, openly gay/bisexual and very proud of it. And it’s so special to be adored by someone like that.
I just hope she’ll find the love of her life very soon! (maybe we can hook her up tonight *g*).

Happy Gay Friday everyone!


  1. I'm glad that you were able to renew your friendship!! Hope you have a fun evening to help you get over your blah week. :)

  2. So glad you were able to stay friends. She sounds like a special lady. Have fun tonight.

  3. I'm happy to hear you were able to reconnect! Happy Gay Friday to you too!

  4. Hope you have a great evening with your friend!

  5. This should be a book, but with a happy ending for all ;) I hope she finds her love too.

  6. Happy Gay Friday, Janna! Hope you have a great time tonight. So good to hear that you and your friend were able to renew your friendship. Sounds like she's a wonderful person and a true friend.

  7. Even if you lost touch, she sounds like a good friend now :)

    Good luck tonight

  8. Life is not always a fairytale, but its good that you two can still connect! Did you have fun?

  9. Fabulous post, hon! I glad you two were able to stay friends.

  10. Hi you all! Thanks for stopping by while I was having fun. It did help to get me over my blah week, Chris. :)

    Yeah, life isn't exactly a fairytale, Lis. If it only were possible to have a HEA for everyone, like in the books, Mariana, how beautiful would that be? :)

    Like most of you, I'm glad that we were able to stay friends as well. Oh, and you might want to know that she's actually very happy to be single and not looking for hook ups at all (as she proved with declining the drink some handsome dark-haired man at the bar offered us ;)).

    Hope you're all having a wonderful weekend too!

  11. Hey Janna - I want to scribble down a fantastic comment about friendships but it comes down to this:

    One: Glad to hear you had a fab time, even friendships can have "hard times", but glad to hear you reconnected again!

    The reason why my comment is perhaps so blunt *shakes head at self*: My week(end) has been blegh, I've been feeling under the weather & hope to kick whatever virus I have to the curb very soon. My body isn't in its happy place right now *sigh*

    Talk to you soon hon!

  12. @Leontine: Sorry to hear you have some virus bugging you, hon. I hope it didn't mess up your planned visit to you niece and nephew.
    And your comment isn't blunt at all! I know how you think about friendships and you know we share the same view on them. :)
    Feel better soon, hon. xoxo

  13. Thank you for sharing your and Janine's story Janna. I'm so glad you were able to reconnect :)

    @Leontine - sorry to hear you're feeling poorly :( *hugs*

  14. @orannia: Thank you, orannia! :)


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